How To Cultivate Positive Self-talk & Be Your Best Friend
Do you talk to yourself?
I do. And I do it often.
When I talk to myself, I use positive, gentle and loving words. I know that words have a strong power in how they make me feel.
I think it’s something that we do all day long. We talk to ourselves, either silently or out loud, and often don’t realize that we are doing it. Self-talk can have a huge impact on our confidence and self-esteem.
There are two types of self talk: positive and negative.
When we engage in positive self-talk, we use optimistic, loving and understanding language like:
"I'm gonna be okay."
"I am beautiful."
"I am strong."
"I've got this."
Some also call this 'positive affirmations’, and it’s proven to be beneficial in increasing your confidence and curbing negative emotions.
In contrast, negative self-talk, or inner critic, can be destructive to your mental health and happiness.
"You're just sitting around all day. Why are you so lazy?"
"Why did you say that at the meeting? So stupid."
It's so easy to call ourselves stupid, ugly, fat, boring, etc. all the things that we would never, ever tell another person, we say it to ourselves every day.
Take a moment to reflect on your inner dialogue.
Are you supportive or critical of yourself? Do you focus more on the good or the bad? Your thoughts are the source of your emotions and actions. The conversation you have with yourself can easily be the most important conversation you have in a day, since it helps you understand your feelings and respond to events around you.
By being critical of yourselves and your shortcomings, you can never be truly happy.
In contrast, by being compassionate and supportive of yourself, you open the door to so much positivity and happiness to flow into your life.
After all, the person that deserves the most love from you, is no one else but yourself.
Imagine talking to yourself like your best friend, what would you say to him/her?
Would you criticize or give compliments?
Would you love them just because of who they are?
If they made a mistake, would you be mean and say things like “You can never do anything right, you’re so useless!” or would you say compassionate words of encouragement like, “You made a mistake but it’s not the end of the world,” "Don't worry, things will get better.", "Don't be too hard on yourself."
Treat yourself equally as kind as you’d treat a friend and apply those words of encouragement to your daily life.
It's time to be your best friend.
It’s time to give yourself the love you deserve.