Updated: Sep 9, 2019
"Self-confidence is the best outfit you can wear and a smile is the best accessory to go with it” - Chloe Ball-Hopkins
I’ve heard many sayings about confidence, but none resonates as much as this one.
It takes time to build and develop self-confidence. Self-confidence must come from within. It must be built over time, it must be challenged over and over again. One gotta overcome their deepest insecurities to master true self-confidence.
True self-confidence doesn’t come from the makeup we put on, the outfit we wear, or external validation from other people. Don’t get me wrong, of course, those things help, but imagine once you wipe off all the makeup, take off all the fancy clothes, and have no one around to give you compliments, what do you have left?
So many people don’t want to get out of the house if they don’t have the perfect outfit or makeup, spending hours getting ready to be able to feel confident, while others are the worst critics of themselves, they pick on the little things that they don’t like about themselves whenever they’re in front the mirror. All they saw is the flaws, the parts that they wish to change, but not the unique features that make them beautiful and stand out in their own way.
However, if you’re confident from the inside out, it belongs to you and no one can take that away from you. Even when you have no makeup on, wear casual clothing, alone or with other people, you look at yourself with love, with pride, with the assurance that you're beautiful no matter what other people think or say.
But “How can I build confidence?”, you may ask. Here are some of my suggestions:
Give yourself compliments
Look at yourself in the mirror every day and each time you do, try to focus on one thing that you love about yourself and give yourself some positive affirmations. This practice only takes around 15-30 seconds, but if you keep doing it every day, soon you'll start noticing more and more things to love about yourself!
Be around confident people
Confidence is contagious. Observe the people whose confidence you admire and notice how they present themselves, how they act, how they speak, how they interact with other people. Learn from them as much as possible and let their confidence rub off on you.
Start voicing your opinions
Speaking up does wonders for your confidence. Choosing to speak up indicates that you believe in yourself and the validity of your opinion. It shows that you think you deserve to be seen and heard, that you're not afraid of other people's opinion and you're comfortable at being yourself. So next time you’re out and about, if there's a problem with your order, tell the restaurant; if you see something that can be improved at work, give feedback; if your spouse/ partner does something that upsets you, sit them down and have a conversation.
I hope my simple suggestions help. If you have any other advice on how to improve self-confidence, I would love to know! We can all learn from each other and grow, right? :)